The Importance of Family

You are not meant to get along with every individual on the planet but when you choose your friends you are likely to choose those that see eye to eye with your ideology than not.  You do not have that luxury when it comes to family.  Most often than not they are completely different from you and actually not someone who you would choose to be friends with but sometimes you do end up having an appreciation for the differences between you and a respect for that different viewpoint.  That is one of the reasons I feel sorry for only children.

For one thing, they are the oldest and the youngest child at the same time.  They don’t have anyone to look up to or have mentor them throughout the complexities of growing up.  Mind you, they don’t have anyone to beat them up either or tease them mercilessly and humiliate them in front of friends so there are certain benefits to going solo.

There were several occasions when I wished I was an only child or that I at least had a sister to confide in and ruminate about how beastly my brothers could be but they also came to my rescue on more than one instance and talked me out of doing some stupid things in life and I always could depend on them if something serious was happening and I needed guidance or strength at the time.

I still do not understand the lifestyle choices of some of them but there is something to that “being blood” bond that if they needed me I would go out of my way to help any of them because I love them – I may not always like them but we all had the same great parents and have some wonderful memories to share of growing up and becoming the people we are today because of that love.

Family helps define you and shape you and keeps you sane … or maybe I’m mistaken and it’s pets that help keep you on an even keel.  At least they don’t argue with you!

Why hire movers when you can do it yourself?

Once upon a time as a teenager leaving the familial nest; moving myself was easy, as I didn’t own very much to begin with.  The longer you live the more you accumulate and if one doesn’t purge on a regular basis you end up with a lot of stuff.  Recently, I helped my brother sell his home, pack up his belongings and get rid of a bunch of junk.  I learned a valuable lesson, albeit a little late in life, I think.

Hire movers!

Why? – less stress, less physical pain after heavy lifting, less bickering and less time wasted sorting and throwing things out.  The movers will ensure the boxes are uniform, strong and packed properly in the truck or pod or container and that nothing will shift during transport to your new home or storage facility.

Let’s deal with the first thing hiring movers relieves – stress!  You merely pick up the phone and book a date for an estimate which you get in writing and on that day, you greet them with a cup of coffee and supervise the packing of your valuables.  Piece of cake!  In the above case, we shopped around for a mover and decided to get a container which we would pack at our leisure and when done simply call them and have them pick it up and take it to a storage place to await shipment.  Problem is – you don’t know when they are going to deliver that container so you have to be there till they bring it and when they do you then have to learn the complex system of opening the back doors so you can start putting your things into it.  Therein lies a second dilemma, how to pack those different size boxes you got from the liquor store or grocery store, taping and labelling them and stacking them tightly so they don’t shift.  It was about this point that I thought to myself – why the hell didn’t you just hire somebody to do all this.

Which brings me to my second point of relief – less physical pain after heavy lifting.  After you have moved things from the attic to the main floor and brought up heavy boxes from the basement a few times, your back and legs are screaming at you – “hell, no” and this is repeated over several hours and several days and all the while you are up and down stairs and beginning to take several extended breathers in between loads to catch your breath and give your knees a rest.  With movers, you simply ask them if they’d like a water or pop while sitting in a rocker on your porch overseeing the proceedings.

To all those who have siblings you will certainly relate to the bickering part from how to lift and carry an item down a tricky set of stairs to how that truck or container should be packed and don’t put that there or throw that out I’m keeping it running dialogue you will have.

Lastly, the time factor.  Most movers will have your house packed up and gone within four to six hours because they bring lots of big strong men to do it.  We, on the other hand took 7 days to sort through, pack and stack everything.  That was after having the Junk Guys come in with their truck and taking away all the junk – from useless paper to old computers, receivers, broken furniture, mattresses, etc.  Three big truckloads later you would think you wouldn’t have that much to actually take with you but you’d be sadly mistaken, my friend.  Box after box of VHS tapes and DVDs were packed away and taken to storage.  Again, I thought – why bother, you can see most of these movies, musicals, concerts, etc on Netflix or other streaming computer sites but what do I know.

I do know I am glad that is over and I will never, ever move myself or anyone again!

That’s what you call your famous last words………………….

Two adirondacks in garden 2

 

 

 

 

Snowball tree on side of garage

Gardens and their importance

For many years my mother kept a beautiful garden filled with tulips and peonies and roses and poppies and plants and the most beautiful snowball tree I have ever seen. When the scent of the lilacs filled the air you knew it was Spring.  When the jack in the pulpit broke ground you knew that scores of trilliums wouldn’t be far behind and that a walk through the woods out back would be filled with a carpet of white making you marvel at the artistry and beauty provided by Mother Nature.

This was the biology/botany lesson where you could witness rebirth in the perennials or see the results of the bulbs/seeds that you planted the previous fall and know that you helped the flower to blossom and show off its splendour and radiance of colour.

Of course that would be looking back on the scene through rose-coloured glasses as six kids ran roughshod through the gardens while playing games in the front yard be it badminton, baseball, croquet or Red rover, Red rover.  We never really appreciated all the hard work and effort that went into working these gardens and when our mom had a spare moment (and I don’t know how she found one) that is where you could find her.

It was only when I began gardening myself as an adult that I appreciated the pride and satisfaction she must have derived from all that effort.

I’m pretty sure she was totally exasperated with us when we rummaged through a bush looking for a lost bird or ball while she admonished us to stay out of the garden with an ever increasing sharp tone.  I can remember the one Spring when my older brother and I planted firecrackers in our neighbour’s tulips and blew them up, just for fun and then having to go over after our mom found out to apologize and pay for the damage out of our allowance.  These are the lessons you learned while growing up.  I have provided a few examples from the many, many life lessons learned.

1. Don’t chew gum with your mouth open as you look like a cow chewing their cud.

2.  Don’t threaten to poke a neighbour child’s eye out with a stick  though you wouldn’t have actually done it because it isn’t nice to pick on someone younger than you even though my older brothers beat me up on a regular basis – not that I’m sure I didn’t provoke them on occasion – I was definitely no little angel.

3.  Don’t try to burn down your school by lighting the field behind it on fire as it wastes the fire department’s time to come and put it out and your parents will be less than thrilled.

4.  Don’t play in the swamp without your rubber boots or you’ll get a soaker.  Be careful where you go swimming that you don’t bring home leeches.

5.  And don’t taunt the boys calling them sissies unless you can outrun them.

There are plenty more but I digress from the Garden and the refuge it must have provided my mother from the goings on while dealing with her stubborn, willful children with more personalities than Sybil.

She also had pea bushes, rhubarb and grew lettuce and other veggies in the side and back gardens to supplement our grocery bill and reused and recycled long before it became di rigeur.  Sometimes I think people forget the simple things in life that can bring joy and happiness.  I miss my mom.

 

ch002

 

 

You’re Fired

Thankfully not everyone gets to hear those words in the workforce and for some once is plenty but I have the unique privilege(?) of hearing those words quite a few times in my life.  It doesn’t seem to have affected me adversely but as my husband has pointed out on several occasions, it’s not the kind of thing you brag about either.  Attached is an article I wrote about being fired.

You’re Fired

Laid-Off-Packing-Up-Office

Incidentally, my office never looked this neat – ever!

FAMILY GAMES NIGHT

family-games-night-clipart

To hold a family games night as a means to spending quality time with your children is an adorable premise – a Hallmark moment of polite entertainment interspersed with laughter and learning in a secure and nurturing period of time.  In reality, it can be utter and complete chaos.

Please read  for our version of family-games-night from long ago.